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It's nice that this page lets people vent their frustrations (of course of all things in life, people are going to be a lot more angry when it concerns love and sex). People need to vent (although it makes this page nearly worthless to the rest of us). That said, settle down, people. There are no conspiracies. You probably didn't get banned for being an atheist or for your witty and unconventional profile one-liners. There are usually good reasons, if sometimes glossed over or too zealously applied. If moderators are not employees, however, there will certainly be some that are more willing to deactivate accounts based on less objective judgment. It could depend on their mood, if they tend to be puritanical, ideologically biased, a little too politically correct, or if another user's complaint seems compelling enough not to bother taking the time we all deserve to apply better judgment. The thing that is clearly unacceptable is that OKCupid does not tell you your account has been blocked. "Technical problems?" OKCupid is a free site, so they owe you nothing (you'd think otherwise reading above) (unless you paid them, that is). That said, OKCupid would do a lot for its reputation and for the sad an frustrated bunch of people who are left wondering if in fact their account was taken down and if so why..... why why why!?! It would be much more effective if a mass campaign (reddit? one of those petition sites?) were to take place encouraging OKCupid to simply send out a quick notification when an account is taken offline and better yet, to spell out details of what steps one can take to get it back online. It is likely that they don't want to budget for this, as it would be an added workload to a *free* site. But perhaps they can leverage their unpaid moderators for this purpose, since those moderators seem to be (at times) a little too aggressive with their power in the first place. What we need is just a little transparency from OKCupid. That's not asking for a lot. I say all this as someone who was recently the victim of an over-zealous blockage -- my profile was quite mundane, so I have to assume it was one picture I had that was entirely innocent but could have been construed by the viewer to be different than it is, but only if that viewer was a little too sensitive/politically correct. Why couldn't they have just taken down the picture, as I know they can do? I'll never know. Can I just get the account back again and remove the picture myself? Who knows. There was no ill intent, nothing objectionable, but someone took things the wrong way. Although it's a free site, it would be nice to think we live in a world where we are all more reasonable and AT LEAST that each of us deserves the dignity of knowing why someone else passed judgment on you.... C'mon OKCupid, matters of love are perhaps the deepest and most important things to every one of us, so please, PLEASE treat that with the respect that we all deserve. We don't ask for much. We use your site because it's a great service. You can make it a little itty tiny bit better.